‘Healing from abuse has taught me to believe in magic. How else would we be able to alchemize violence into a loving vision of hope?’ Read more
In The #MeToo Era, #SurvivorLoveLetter Centers Love For Survivors
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Every Day Can Be A Horror Story If You Tell It Right
I’m not talking here, deliberately, about the give and take of sexual play, of dominance, of submission. This is not about that. Read more
Whisper Networks Are Flawed — But Not Because Of How They Affect The Accused
No, whisper networks are not a ‘witch hunt.’ But they’re also not above reproach. Read more
How Can We Teach Consent If We Don’t Teach About Pleasure?
Let 2018 be the year we demand more than freedom from sexual harassment and abuse. This year, it’s time we demand pleasure. Read more
To Raise A Feminist Son, Talk To Him About Aziz Ansari
What my son must know is that none of this is as difficult as the men around him might be saying it is. Read more
This Is The Story Of The Story I Can’t Write
None of the stories I’m telling here are about sexual harassment. But these people abuse their power in the same way. Read more
Strict Alcohol Policies At Holiday Parties Won’t Protect Women
An increasing number of companies are implementing drinking quotas at holiday parties to curb sexual abuse. This approach is wrong — and dangerous. Read more
When You Can’t Throw All Men Into The Ocean And Start Over, What CAN You Do?
This society is broken, abusive, patriarchal trash—and not just in little pockets or in dark alleys and frat parties. Read more