By Jonna Ivin Content warning: Descriptions of abuse You have nothing to complain about. I don’t beat you. He’s drunk. Some nights are bearable. Others need to be waited out. Hours earlier, he groped at my tits and tried to shove his hands down my pants. Now he’s pissed off. He’s up. He’s down. Six beers this. Ten Read more
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When It Comes To Queer Love, Our Word Choices Matter
Perhaps most important is the message that our word choice sends to those who we don’t know are listening. Read more
The Jewish Laws On Sex Have Strengthened My Marriage
The Torah offers yet another version of improbable partnering with The One, but when you dive deeper, much of its advice is predicated on work. And strict laws. Which I realize seem antithetical to passion, but I’m here to tell you it’s quite the opposite. Read more
Why Are You Afraid Of Love?
I tried to change, close my mouth more… At the birth of Lemonade, we awaken to images of Beyoncé alone and naked in her thoughts. All at once on a stage, in a field, in a dark room with her body contained. By this time, I am open and crying; not yet understanding everything that is Read more
Diaries Of A High Femme Whore
I am an ambassador of reality and fantasy. I sit in on meetings and report back from two worlds. I contain multitudes. Read more
We Online Date Because We Want To Be Pierced, Wounded, Feel Alive
Internet dating is both real and unreal. I project myself onto every surface, every picture, and every face — they might as well be a sex doll or a love robot or a mannequin. Read more
The Case Against “Saving” Marriage
Marriage as the neoliberal answer to systemic, structural problems like poverty displays a willful ignorance about what marriage is and isn’t and what the state can and cannot do. Read more
Falling In Love With My Son Made Me More Pro-Choice Than Ever
I am a better parent because I chose to become a parent. Read more
I Gave My Father’s Heart Away
Death comes laced with injustice. Read more
The Best Rides At Disney World To Get Fingered On
I spent my high school years in Orlando, Florida, so I would know.
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