Editor’s Note: The Est. is the home of sex, gender, love, kink, and what-the-hell-is-that-all-about podcast “Why Are People Into That?!” hosted by educator, activist, and media maven Tina Horn. Named one of the best sex podcasts by Buzzfeed, Autostraddle, and Esquire, we’re proud as hell to host it here on The Est. In addition to Read more
If people truly were able to love who they love regardless of gender identity or sexuality — what would the world look like? Read more
“[It] is the most difficult of the five to define, and is the subject of many legal arguments. A social group is sometimes said to mean an identifiable group of people whose government views it as a threat. Or it is described as a group sharing a common characteristic that is so fundamental to their individual identities that the members cannot — or should not be expected to — change it. The group must be recognized within society as a distinct entity.” Read more
I haven’t figured out the answers to all my questions. But I hope I never reach the point where I have nothing new left to experience and, thus, run out of questions altogether. Read more
I was 18 when I first started asking men to hurt me. It began innocently: a request for a hand around my throat, usually in the heat of the moment to take the edge off. Some men obliged, reaching for me without a second thought, but most of them balked, fearing that they would bruise me Read more
I have cautioned myself against loss. I have given up a little of the dreaming. Read more
The beauty of the woman in that joke? She makes him feel extremely competent. Read more
Give me a living truth that will not unravel. Read more
Never feel confused again! Read more
Which foods provoke the lesbian itch? Celery, arugula and orange flowers. No wonder so many queer women are vegan. Read more
