I entertain the thought that my father really did know that there was more to women, to me, and that he just didn’t know how to deal with it. Read more
When It’s A Girl
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The Fixer Upper, A Love Story
This isolated and imperfect project house embodies some kind of emotional petri dish. Read more
When Protecting Yourself From Racism Is The Selfish Choice
I’m choosing not to visit my racist mother-in-law in the hospital — because I have a right to not sacrifice my own well-being. Read more
Japanese Cartoon Porn Helped Me Understand My Trans Identity
Internet perverts have argued for years over what types of futa, if any, make the consumer gay, but at 13, I had no interest in codifying the nuances. Read more
Why Are We Scared To Admit That Pregnancy And Childbirth Can Be Sensual?
Most people understand that during the act of sexual intercourse, the clitoris provides sexual pleasure. Far fewer know, or perhaps acknowledge, that this organ doesn’t shut off during pregnancy. It continues to be capable of providing that pleasure for the next nine months, including during labor and delivery. Read more
General Leia Organa Is The Hero We Need Right Now
Carrie Fisher made Princess Leia into something so much greater. Read more
I Will Not Be Gaslighted For Speaking My Mind While Dating
I felt my inferiority complex kicking in. Read more
Vignettes About My Brother
“Because it’s embarrassing, I’ll admit that I treasured those stories we read as children, the ones where the girl and her brother go off bravely into the woods and find a way to survive. They aren’t brave at first, just lost. And yes the girl is clever. She feeds the wild cat and knows what lights the dark heart of the forest witch. But her brother is her champion. Not because he is bigger or stronger — and he might be — but because he sees in her a great power and vows to protect it. In my heart, my brother and I are those children.” Read more
You Don’t Have To Go Home For The Holidays
Too often, we allow nostalgia and guilt-tripping to convince us that there is a ‘right’ day and time to be with family. Read more
I Ache For My Trans Friends Abandoned During The Holidays
We have our chosen families — but how do you mend the hole your blood relatives make when they abandon you? Read more