If we keep acting like sexual abuse is wrong because the abuser is physically unattractive, abusers deemed attractive will get away with it. Read more
When We Body-Shame Sexual Abusers
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Dear Al Franken: I’ll Miss You, But You Can’t Matter Anymore
Right now, many would have you be another reason why we wait. You would be another reason why we harbor abusers. Read more
Due Process Is Needed For Sexual Harassment Accusations — But For Whom?
After USA Today asked me to write about not believing in due process, I wondered: How often are we being suckered into a side of a debate that we shouldn’t even be having? Read more
Save Your Apologies: Here’s What Women Need From Men Right Now
We don’t need your insipid apologies, faux shock, and awe at things you’ve known about for years. Read more
So You’ve Sexually Harassed Or Abused Someone: What Now?
There is a path forward, past denial and scandal and shame. Read more
I Loved The Man Who Abused Me
Fear is a major factor in why women stay with abusive partners — but love can be far stronger. Read more
When You Can’t Throw All Men Into The Ocean And Start Over, What CAN You Do?
This society is broken, abusive, patriarchal trash—and not just in little pockets or in dark alleys and frat parties. Read more
On Kevin Spacey, Harvey Weinstein, Milo Yiannopoulos, And The Weaponization Of Identity
High-profile abusers have a long history of using marginalization to deflect from their White male violence. Read more
How To Talk To Your Latinx Family About Sexual Violence
The informal lessons that Latinx youth are sometimes taught about sex and sexual violence often rely on now disproven myths about rape. Read more
‘It Is Absurdly, Obscenely Common’: Incest Survivors Speak Out
We must discuss a form of abuse that society has stigmatized for far too long. Read more