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A Letter To My Abuser

By Karah Frank The following letter was delivered in court in the case against Karah’s former abuser. She says it was inspired by the bravery of the Stanford rape victim. Content warning: domestic violence. In Judith Herman’s now foundational text on trauma, she outlines the process of psychological domination. The final stage in this process is Read more

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How Abusers Rely On Shame To Keep Victims Down

It’s a problem of epidemic proportions because it has an impact on all of us. What makes it “silent” is our inability or unwillingness to talk openly about shame and explore the ways in which it affects our individual lives, our families, our communities and society. Our silence has actually forced shame underground, where it now permeates our personal and public lives in destructive and insidious ways. Read more