Trumpeting sexual freedom also has the power to wound deeply. Read more
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Happiness Sounds A Lot Like A Lie
Most people I knew were quite invested in my happiness. So much so, that I lived in fear of disappointing them. Read more
The Economics Of Sex, Or The Law Of Diminishing Marginal Utility
The law of diminishing marginal utility states that, with all things held constant, as a person consumes more of a product, there is a decline in the additional satisfaction a person derives from consuming one additional unit of production (or marginal utility).
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of marginal utility lately in regards to sex. And love.
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To End Rape Culture, We Have To Stop Vilifying Rejection
Men are literally killing women for rejecting them. Until men learn it’s okay to be rejected, no one will be safe. And that’s going to take a cultural shift to turn ‘no’ from an attack to just another word. Read more
Peter Kavinsky Is Every White Boy I’ve Spent My Adulthood Getting Over
How the recent Netflix film ‘To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before’ called all my internalized ideas of race and romance into question. Read more
What I Learned On An Accidental Date With A Trump Supporter
Maybe now you have to pay $29.99 a month to find out if you match a Scorpio or a xenophobe? Read more
Women: Watch Out For This Ominous Sign At Your Dinner Date
In the age of #MeToo, what does it mean if he insists on ordering for you? Read more
Is Love Infinite? A Polyamorous Roundtable On Jealousy
‘I’m happiest when my support networks are as wide and tribe-like as possible, and a lack of jealousy makes that easier to sustain.’ Read more
Bad Advice On Obsessing Over The Sexual History Of Your Child’s Lover
Welcome to our Bad Advice column! Stay tuned every Tuesday for more terrible guidance based on actual letters. Read more
Keeping It In The Family: Why We Pick The Partners We Do
We know people often pick a spouse who resembles a parent. What about one who resembles a sibling? Read more