Too often, we allow nostalgia and guilt-tripping to convince us that there is a ‘right’ day and time to be with family. Read more
You Don’t Have To Go Home For The Holidays
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I Ache For My Trans Friends Abandoned During The Holidays
We have our chosen families — but how do you mend the hole your blood relatives make when they abandon you? Read more
To Whoever Called My Hotel Room While I Was Masturbating
A woman’s naked body is deemed a danger. Read more
Bondage Is Freedom, All I Have To Do Is Accept My Partner’s Desire
Editor’s Note: The Est. is the home of sex, gender, love, kink, and what-the-hell-is-that-all-about podcast “Why Are People Into That?!” hosted by educator, activist, and media maven Tina Horn. Named one of the best sex podcasts by Buzzfeed, Autostraddle, and Esquire, we’re proud as hell to host it here on The Est. In addition to Read more
How My Sexuality Changed After My Husband Became My Wife
If people truly were able to love who they love regardless of gender identity or sexuality — what would the world look like? Read more
How I Finally Figured Out I’m Queer In My Late Thirties
I haven’t figured out the answers to all my questions. But I hope I never reach the point where I have nothing new left to experience and, thus, run out of questions altogether. Read more
The Power Of Being A Submissive Black Woman In Bed
I was 18 when I first started asking men to hurt me. It began innocently: a request for a hand around my throat, usually in the heat of the moment to take the edge off. Some men obliged, reaching for me without a second thought, but most of them balked, fearing that they would bruise me Read more
How My White Mother Helped Me Find My Blackness
Black History Month, the Olympics, Martin Luther King Jr.’s Birthday, Kwanzaa, Nigerian Independence Day — my mother looked forward to these days like they were Christmas.
I Believe Love Is Largely An Act Of Imagination
Give me a living truth that will not unravel. Read more
7 Bizarre Theories On What ‘Causes’ Lesbianism
Which foods provoke the lesbian itch? Celery, arugula and orange flowers. No wonder so many queer women are vegan. Read more