This season of ‘The Bachelor’ is an illuminating case study in how society associates manliness with heteronormative sex. Read more
Patriarchy, Pop Culture, And The Taboo Of Adult Male Virginity
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Promoting Consent: The Business Of Safer Spaces
I’m not entirely sure why, but as I entered the party I had Taylor Swift’s song “All Too Well” in my head. Considering I had never been to this location or one of these events and I wasn’t arriving with anyone, the lyrics had no relationship to what I was actually doing; attending a members-only intimate party via an anonymous erotica club. Not quite a sex party, although that was certainly available to anyone interested in partaking. It was more of a hyper-flirtatious gathering for adults; consenting, eager adults.
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To End Rape Culture, We Have To Stop Vilifying Rejection
Men are literally killing women for rejecting them. Until men learn it’s okay to be rejected, no one will be safe. And that’s going to take a cultural shift to turn ‘no’ from an attack to just another word. Read more
Want To Know Why Tumblr Is Cracking Down On Sex? Look To FOSTA/SESTA
Do you watch porn? Do you like to discuss sex on the internet? Do you use the internet to get laid? Those days are short-lived unless we fight to repeal this. Read more
Sex Is Not A Substitute For Masturbating
I’m unsure why so many women—and let’s be real, cisgender women in relationships with men— believe they can only be giving themselves pleasure when no man is there to do it for them. Read more
‘It’s Not About Sex, It’s About Power’ And Other Lies
What’s insidious about this phrase is that it assumes we have stable and agreed upon definitions of fraught terms like “sex” and “power.” The phrase ushers us past the physicality of sex and violence all together in favor of an abstraction. Read more
Power To The Vulva: Author Liv Strömquist On Shame, The Female Body, And Art
“If we don’t have the words we cannot understand what the vulva is or how it looks and works. In many languages there isn’t even a proper word for the female sexual organ—one that isn’t an insult.” Read more
Being Brown On Tokyo Tinder
Being brown and Indian, I did not embody an appealing brand of foreignness. Read more
When Are We Going To Get Over Biphobia?
I presumed that my LGBTQ+ friends would be the most understanding and accepting of my bisexuality. I was wrong. Read more
On Being ‘Game’: What Happens When Sex Positivity Feels Like Pressure
‘It is just as objectionable to insist that everyone should be non-monogamous or kinky, as to believe that everyone should be heterosexual, married, or vanilla.’ Read more