Sometimes amid damaging patterns, the loss of people we love, our creeping self-doubt and bone-tiredness with grey—we need reminding our life has been here, beautiful and shining, the whole time. Read more
The Sound Of The Bell As It Leaves The Bell
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On The Beauty Of Setting Boundaries: ‘No’ Is A Love Word
Perhaps I love the female octopus because she is like the very best people I love: shape-shifting according to circumstance, principled in her priorities, and completely no-bullshit. When she needs to, she exercises extraordinary boundaries. Read more
The Heavenly Torture Of Grief, Of Winter, The Bulb Before The Tulip
It’s the time of year when the weather acts like a Philip Glass score. The body can’t get enough of the mikva of hot water, and we turn inwards. “What day is it?” one of my students asked in class last week, twirling his pencil. “The 87th of January,” another quipped back, without looking up. Read more
A Portrait Of The Self As Self
It’s challenging, isn’t it? The way we come face-to-face with the things we’d like to leave in the last calendar year, the things we expect ourselves to be able to cleanly cut away from just because we scrawled that we would in 2019? Read more
How To Throw Our Bodies Into The Fire If We Need To
Is allyship privileged? Read more
Every Day, Men Are Encouraged To Dominate ‘Vulnerable, Powerless People’
The irony is that these attempts at narrowing the conversation always end up doing the opposite: If the situation is to blame, why are there so many different situations producing similar results? Why is it a given that men will attack women when in isolation? Why do we simply accept the terror of masculinity as a fact of life? Read more
Yes, Kavanaugh, We’re Living In ‘The Twilight Zone’
Like those on Maple Street, the men in power in Hollywood and D.C. choose to ignore the systemic issue at hand, and instead focus on preserving their own position—regardless of how it might harm their neighbors. Read more
On Covert Subjectivity: The Truth Contains Multitudes
What needs to happen to make opinions facts? Read more
Sensing Danger Before It’s Visibly Apparent (And Other Useful Lessons In A World Rife With Destruction)
Humans are repositories of composite knowledge, learned by rote because of necessity or habit, much of which sits below, glacially submerged. Read more
Amnesia And Other Gifts
My fascinating if mildly morbid research started because I couldn’t remember having sex with my ex boyfriend. It was as though someone had come in with kindergarten scissors and started sloppily snipping those memories away. Read more