Publishing is a snake pit filled with venomous but charming creatures in rumpled suits. This handy guide* will help you spot the cons, the fakes, and the shady characters you’ll encounter on your journey. You can’t avoid them all, but knowledge is power. Read more
Two Months After Tumblr ‘Adult Content’ Ban, I Miss The Fat Naked Bodies
Whether they were dim, blurry selfies or professional photo shoots, Tumblr users exposed me to naked trans bodies, naked bodies of color, naked non-binary bodies, and naked fat bodies. Sometimes all at once. All were wonderful, and all worked to support those marginalized people who were left out of magazines, ads, and even mainstream pornography. Read more
The Economics Of Sex, Or The Law Of Diminishing Marginal Utility
The law of diminishing marginal utility states that, with all things held constant, as a person consumes more of a product, there is a decline in the additional satisfaction a person derives from consuming one additional unit of production (or marginal utility).
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of marginal utility lately in regards to sex. And love.
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The Heavenly Torture Of Grief, Of Winter, The Bulb Before The Tulip
It’s the time of year when the weather acts like a Philip Glass score. The body can’t get enough of the mikva of hot water, and we turn inwards. “What day is it?” one of my students asked in class last week, twirling his pencil. “The 87th of January,” another quipped back, without looking up. Read more
Finding Community During Pregnancy As A Black Non-Binary Femme
Racism During Prenatal Visits isn’t a topic covered in any of the popular pregnancy books so I scoured the internet for people who could relate beyond peer-reviewed articles and academic texts about the intersections between institutional racism and the medical industrial complex. Read more
I Have No Sexual Fantasies Due To Aphantasia
When I close my eyes, I’m unable to visualize anything—and it’s had major effects on my sexuality. Read more
Patriarchy, Pop Culture, And The Taboo Of Adult Male Virginity
This season of ‘The Bachelor’ is an illuminating case study in how society associates manliness with heteronormative sex. Read more
Sometimes Real Education Doesn’t Start At Home
With little more than 20 students—comprised almost entirely of trans children and volunteering teachers—this Chilean school, Escuela Amaranta Gomez, aims to unite a society that is tearing itself apart. Read more
Three Lessons For Men From The Bad, Weird Year Of 2018
2018 was a year.
It jumped out of 2017 and scurried into the darkest corners. It latched on to satire’s face, only to burst from satire’s chest with the most ludicrous headlines. Overall, it was a bad, weird year, but men — especially — did not come off looking good in 2018 and it’s time to examine what lessons we should glean from these past 12 twelve months to make our collective futures less bad and weird…maybe even better. Read more
Here’s Your Abortion Survivalist Guide For An Impending Emergency: Q&A With Author And Activist Robin Marty
“I would be highly surprised if we don’t have a state where abortion is either illegal after six weeks or there’s no clinic. Honestly, I think the first thing that’s going to happen is we’re going to have a clinic-free state within the next twelve months. If I were going to put money on it I’d say it’s Missouri.” Read more